Let’s face it — we’ve all turned to a sad song or two to help get us through the day every now and then.
And even though the artist might be singing about heartbreak, or the guitarist is playing in a minor key, it turns out we often have a pleasurable reaction to this kind of music.
Why?
A recent study from the University of Berlin suggests listening to sad music actually causes our minds to wander, which is a good thing. The study indicates this mind wandering lead to self-reflection, which ultimately may actually help us feel better.
But does that tell the whole story?
What we know for sure is music has a powerful effect on our emotions. If you’d like to put that to the test, try watching a movie with the music stripped out.
"You’ll find yourself being far less involved emotionally," said scientist and musician John Powell. "In fact, music is one of the main emotional transmitters during a film. It really highlights all the effects they try to give you visually."
Powell is also the author of "Why You Love Music: From Mozart to Metallica — The Emotional Power of Beautiful Sounds."
He says sad music gives us a chance to explore sadness in our lives without actually being exposed to genuine sadness.
But to fully understand what’s going on in our brains here, Powell says it’s important to realize sad music isn't inherently designed to make you sad.
"You have to bear in mind that all music, no matter what it purported to give you emotionally, is designed to be pleasurable," he said. "So even sad music is designed to be pleasurable. If there really was genuine music around in the world that made you feel miserable, it would be very unpopular."
That said, there’s an interesting difference between being emotionally connected with happy music versus sad music.
"When you’re listening to happy music, you recognize that the person who wrote it and performed it designed it to be happy," Powell said. "And also, you automatically get happy about it."
But when you hear sad music, Powell says something peculiar happens.
"You recognize that it’s sad, you recognize that somebody wrote this and sang this with sadness in mind, but you don’t get involved," he said. "You don’t involve your own emotions in the sadness. You sort of observe it as a sad event or a sad description, but you keep your distance, and you remain pleased by the music. And in fact, so you end up being quite happy about the whole thing."
From a musical perspective, a song can be "sad" because it’s written in a minor key, which we’ve culturally established as the "sad key." Or, it could be the speed of the song.
"The main musical signal that gives you a clue as to what the music is supposed to be doing is its speed, and you’ll find that sad music is nearly always slow, because if you speed up the music … it sounds happier and happier," Powell said.
And then there are the lyrics. Who hasn’t thought "this could be me" at some point when they've heard a song about heartbreak?
Again, says Powell, it boils down to that distance factor.
"So you might empathize with the singer, who’s got this dying dog … or a love affair gone wrong," he said. "And you might empathize with that, but you’re not deeply involved yourself."
While some songs are straight up "sad" songs, other peppier songs can also evoke feelings of sadness, thanks to the memories and association we attach to them.
"You can actually get genuinely sad from a happy song if it evokes a memory of happier days," Powell said. "If you recently got divorced, and then a song that comes on the radio that was your tune, that can make your genuinely miserable, even though it could be a really happy tune. One of the ways music does evoke emotions in humans is from the relationship between your memories and what was happening at the time in the music."
So, barring any of those possible painful songs, go ahead and listen to all the sad music you want.
If you’d like to indulge yourself further, we’ve included a playlist of some of Wisconsin Public Radio staffers’ favorite sad songs. It’s OK to cry.